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Our Natural State

Love is our natural state. It is the state in which we were born. Its the state to which we will return.
In between, love is still there . Sometimes we do a really good job of separating ourselves from it.
Love is always inside of us. The thing of it is that we have to find the love for ourselves first. Just like you have to find your own happiness before you can help others, you have to have self love before you can truly love someone else.
Self love is something I have fought with most of my life. When I was very young, I without a doubt loved everything about myself. Then I gt older and , as happens to most of us , I was told things about myself that were not true. Because I was a child , and it was adults telling me these things, I believed them. I did fight for awhile; I fought hard to hang n to who I wanted to be. When you’re a kid though, theres only so long you can fight before you give up . You don’t have enough emotional intelligence, or experience, to understand that what other people say about you is a reflection of how they feel about themselves.     
It takes a long time to get past that. Time and emotional awareness. But we can all return to our natural state. We can all return to love anytime we are ready.
Photo via Panache Desai 

 

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Run With Your Happiness

Happiness is choice. I’ve heard that many times but it took a while for me totally understand how true it is. 

Happiness IS most definitely a choice. An indiviual choice . One that only you can make for you and none of us can make for other people no matter how much we want to.

When I first came out as being gay, a person who I was close to said to me , “So you’re going to make me unhappy so you can be happy?” My response at the time was ” I guess so” and I didn’t think anymore about it.  

Maybe I should have kept it that way but I found myself months later replaying that question in my mind. It was at that I point I realized how selfish a question that was.

So you’re going to make me unhappy so you can be happy?

Stop and think about that question for a minute. A person wants me to sacrifice my happiness because they think it will make them happy. That thinking is very, very flawed. No matter what actions you take, you cannot make anyone else happy. All that ends up happening is two people end up unhappy.

Most of us have been taught to put other’s happiness ahead of our own. Sounds good, sounds like the right way to be. But it’s not. You have to happy first. You have to be the person you want to be first. If you are unhappy and miserable, you will not be in any shape to help anyone else.

Everyone has a right to be happy. Everyone deserves to be happy. Don’t let anyone pin their happiness on you , it’s not your responsibilty. Your responsibility is your happiness.
Find your passion and run with it. Run with it like your life depends on it. Find your happiness. Live your happiness.  

Wattpad

I don’t know how many of you know about Wattpad. Basically it’s a website or app where you can publish your writing. There are lots of users and lots of good stories.
One of the nice things about Wattpad is that you can publish stories and / or books in chapters instead of all at once.I am currently working on a story and a book of poetry.
Here is the link to my profile. Please take a look and share. If you are a Wattpad user please vote and also let me know bout your works so I can check them out . Thanks.

Go Down the Rabbit Hole: A Writer’s Manifesto

Writing for Digital Media

1. You are the work. The work is you: both an articulation of the self and a possibility for self-reflection. Be honest in creation: allow yourself to bleed into the work, but also allow it to work on you. Your work can show you things: illuminate and clarify your own thoughts, motivations, actions. If you do it right, you will find the work changing you, too.

2. Thinking is process. Laying on the floor. Sitting on park benches. Getting lost on purpose. These are all working. Learn the difference between mindless distraction and mindful wandering.

3. Go down the rabbit hole. Sometimes the work isn’t about what you think it is. Allow yourself to get lost down alleyways, to follow a train of thought around a corner. Don’t feel you need to reign yourself in. Too much focus squeezes all the possibility for revelation out of the work.

4. Fear…

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Why I Can’t Agree With the Bible: 1 Chronicles: Part 1

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I don’t have a lot to say about 1 Chronicles 1-9, since it’s just an overview of what has already been discussed. It’s mostly an overview of the earlier chronologies that have been discussed. Most of the people named are never discussed in any detail, so I see no reason to care about them. Those that are mentioned in greater detail have already been discussed.
The one thing I thought worth mentioning was this: Shaharaim divorced two wives before having his children. What is the implication of this? And was he married to them at the same time? It kind of sounded like he was. If so, was he already married to the woman/women that he had his children with? It’s funny to hear people claiming that gay marriage will redefine marriage when marriage in the Bible changes so much throughout the Bible, and there are some very obvious differences…

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Take Responsibility; Lesson From Kids

A very good message that I think a lot of us need to hear.

Hope Nwosu

If there is any body in the world that is not afraid of taking responsibility for his/her actions, it’s a kid. Ask him hours later (as much as he can remember) who did this or that and he is not afraid to say ‘it’s I’ even though he stands to be punished.

It’s either kids don’t want to be afraid or that it’s in their nature not to be afraid. They accept their actions or inactions in good faith without saying it’s this or that person that made them to do what they did.

Kids just tell you the whole truth not minding the consequences. Perhaps, this is one of the reasons it’s easier to correct a kid than an adult. Adults try to find an excuse to almost everything that goes wrong. For instance, an unsuccessful businessman might want to blame his woe on the scarcity of clients or…

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New Releases – 9/9/14

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The Inaugural Pick of the BookPeople Trust Fall:Station Eleven by Emily St. John Mandel
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Elizabeth says:
“I didn’t want this book to end! Emily St. John Mandel has created an entirely plausible apocalypse and placed her fully realized characters right at the center of it. She effortlessly winds their seemingly unrelated stories together – I wasn’t ready to say good-bye to her characters. It’s a post-apocalyptic novel with heart.”

MysteryPeople New Release Pick of the Day:Robert B. Parker’s Blind Spot by Reed Farrel Coleman
It’s been a long time since Jesse Stone left L.A., and still longer since the tragic injury that ruined his chances for a major league baseball career. When Jesse is invited to a reunion of his old Triple-A team at a hip New York city hotel, he is forced to grapple with his memories and…

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